Actions speak louder than words. I am sure that most everyone has heard that phrase. Have you ever really given it any thought? It is a pretty powerful statement and really does continue our theme of being calm.
When your children see you start to get frustrated or angry and then see you calm yourself down, you are modeling for them the correct way to handle those feelings. If you tend to yell when you get angry, don’t be surprised when your children yell right back at you. They learned that from you.
I know how easy it is to get frustrated and yell (remember, I was once “a witch on a broomstick) and I know how hard it is to break that cycle. It takes a lot of practice, it means taking care of yourself so that you will be at the top of your game when life happens, and it means really thinking about what comes out of your mouth before you utter the words. All of that takes a lot of effort.
I have never, ever indicated that learning to Pause and staying calm are easy. They are NOT for a lot of us. But are they worth your time and effort? – you bet they are!!
So…keep practicing, be kind to yourself if you make mistakes,and keep practicing. Keep being the person you want your children to be. Remember – your children will be watching and learning.
Have some fun today!