“It’s not what you do once in a while;
but what you do day in and day out
that makes the difference.”
~ Jenny Craig
When I was in my witch-on-a broomstick stage I convinced myself that I was calm every now and then, and so everything would be ok. It took me a long time to realize that I had it backwards.
What you do “day in and day out”, as Jenny Craig says in her quote today, is what is important and necessary to build good relationships with your children. We all make mistakes but most of the time we should be staying calm and connected to our children.
My oldest child has shared with me more that once that if I had not stopped the witch-on-a-broomstick routine that she would have pulled away and we would not have the relationship that we have today. It makes me very sad to know that I put her through that, as well as my other children, but I have learned to forgive myself and move on. But it is one reason why I am so passionate about helping people today learn to stay calm and stay connected to their children. I don’t want anyone to have the regrets that I had.
In the ScreamFree Parenting book by Hal Runkel, he defines ScreamFree as – ”learning to relate with others in a calm, cool and connected way, taking hold of your own emotional responses no matter how anyone else chooses to behave; learning to focus on yourself and take care of yourself for the world’s benefit.
So, for your family’s benefit (and the world’s) practice being a ScreamFree parent everyday. If you make a mistake, forgive yourself, and then start practicing again. Remember, it is, “what you do day in and day out that counts”.
Have some fun today!
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