Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.
Presence- being present in the here and now. Being in the moment. Sounds pretty easy and yet so hard to achieve.
“Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear”. Yup – been there and done that – many times. “Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past”, Yup – been there and done that, again many times.
When my children were young I wasted a lot of time in those emotions. Time that I could have been having fun with my kids. Times when I should have been paying attention to the now and instead my head was filled with the past or the future. Times when I missed something because I was anxious or feeling guilty.
I realize today what a waste it was and what I missed, but I have also learned not to go there. I can’t change anything that happened and I have no power over what will happen, so everyday I try and stay right where I am. Right here, right now. Sometimes I am successful and sometimes not so much. But I keep on working at it!
I don’t want to miss anything. There is too much in the now to be grateful for and too much in the now to enjoy. So everyday I practice being here. Yes, practice. I practice because it is something that I am not good at and I want to get better at, so I practice. It won’t just one day happen – I need to practice. I need to practice staying right where I am, grateful for the things I have and living what is happening in the moment. There is so much in the present that requires my presence. I really don’t have much time anymore for the past and the future.
So…Practice banishing the thoughts of what you could have done and what you will do and just be here, in the present, in the here and now, in the moment. Give your children your presence and all of you will be much happier.
Have some fun today!