“If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people’s choices. If I feel good about my body, I don’t go around making fun of other people’s weight or appearance. We’re hard on each other because we’re using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived deficiency.” Brene Brown
Years ago, when my children were much younger, I was standing in the grocery aisle. One of my children was on the floor screaming and kicking – an all out tantrum was going on. I was standing next to her, calmly telling her that I would be here when she was finished. I knew this daughter well and I knew that nothing I did was going to help so I might as well just wait it out. So there I was.
I could have been embarrassed but I wasn’t. I could have tried to pick her up kicking and screaming but I didn’t. I could have a done a dozen different things but I chose to just stand and wait it out.
Well…from the looks I received you would have thought that I was torturing my child. 99% of the really nasty looks were from other women. Women who, I am sure had been in this exact place before but instead of feeling empathy they felt the need to judge.
Brene Brown tells us today that the reason we judge others so harshly is because, “…. we’re using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived deficiency.“
Why do we feel so inadequate at being moms? Why, as moms, are we always comparing ourselves to other moms? Is it tied up in the
“perfect mom” syndrome? I really don’t know the answers to those questions and I would appreciate any and all feedback that any of you have on this. Let me know what you think.
So…do what you have to do to feel confident in your parenting. Get up every day and tell yourself “I am a great mom!” Keep doing it until you believe it. If we all do this then maybe, just maybe, we can stop having negative opinions of other moms and instead realize how hard it is, realize that her family is different from ours and then maybe we empathize and not judge.
Have some fun today!