“Act the way you want to be, and soon you will be the way you act.”
When my children were young I knew I wanted to be a better mom but I did not know how. I eventually learned how to be a better mom but I then I was scared. What if I made a mistake? What if I forgot all that I have learned? What if I still wasn’t good enough?
With all these fears running through my head it was hard to be the confident mom that my children needed. They needed me to be in charge, they needed me to set the expectations and consequences and then carry them out, they needed me be the one that would keep them safe.
With all of those fears in my head and in my heart the only thing I could do was to act as if I was that mom. So I acted confident, I acted strong when I was setting expectations and giving consequences, I acted like I would keep them safe no matter what happened.
Down the road a bit, I realized one day that I wasn’t acting anymore. I was confident. I believed fully in the expectations and consequences that I gave to my children and I carried them out without a second thought. I knew that I was capable of keeping them safe no matter what happened. I wasn’t acting anymore – I was that person.
So…sometimes being the parent you want to be can seem like a daunting task that is impossible to achieve. If you aren’t there yet, start acting like you are. Keep on acting like the parent you want to be and sooner than you think you will be that parent.
Have some fun today!