How does one act like a mother? I suppose there are as many answers to that question as there are mothers. Every one of us, most likely, has her own definition of what a mother should act like and how she should be treated.
I would like to share my definition with you. I believe that a mother should be strong yet vulnerable, confident yet not overbearing, strict but fair, loving but not enabling. I believe that a mother is a teacher and her actions should reflect what she is teaching. I believe that a mother in continually learning and evolving as she raises her children. This definition has taken me years to develop and I am sure will continue to evolve as I enter each new phase of being a mother. t required a lot of missteps to get to the where I am today. It took a lot of hard work to realize that I, as the adult, had to grow up and learn how to be a mother. And that my teachers would be my children.
When we bring our children home from the hospital not one of us is really prepared. We can’t be, because every child is different and we won’t know how to parent them until we begin to know them. One of my children never slept. One never challenged me. One was a bit stubborn. (I can’t imagine where she got that from- if you can’t guess, I will let you talk to my husband :)) One was always questioning the way I did things. Two never had a curfew, one did. And the list goes on. They were all very different and they all helped me to grow into the mother that I am today. Sometimes I went kicking and screaming, (as in the “witch on a broomstick” phase) and sometimes I went along quite cooperatively – hard to believe, but true. I am still learning, but I do believe that I “act” like a mother – at least most of the time. 🙂 The important thing to remember when trying to learn to act like a mother is to let your children guide you and learn from them as you continue on your journey.
So…what is your definition of a mother? What have your children taught you? What have you learned?
Have some fun today!