“The miracle of children is that we just don’t know how they will change or who they will become.”
Today’s quote seems so logical and so simple, yet as a young mom I somehow failed to really believe it. I let my anxieties run wild when I saw them doing something “wrong” or not acting like I thought they should be acting. I worried that my one of my children would be shy and quiet her whole life. I could not have been more wrong. I worried that one of my children would never learn to tell the truth. Wrong again. I worried that one of my children would never be comfortable making phone calls. And again I was wrong. I worried and worried and usually imagined the worse case scenario. All these worries were just time I wasted.
After my “witch on a broomstick phase” I did finally come to realize that what they were like at 3 or 8 or 13 or even 18 did not necessarily mean that they were going to be that way their whole life. I guess that when I finally changed and grew, it dawned on me that they also had the capability to change and grow. So I put my worries about the future to rest and just started enjoying them for who they were, right at that moment. And it was so much more fun, for all of us!
So…enjoy your children for who they are right now. Don’t worry that you have to correct every little thing, don’t let your anxieties lead the way you parent. Know that as Eileen Kennedy-Moore tells us today – “The miracle of children is that we just don’t know how they will change or who they will become.” The possibilities of who they will grow up to be are endless.
Have some fun today!
I am off to Seattle tomorrow to give two presentations, one to teachers and one to parents at Villa Academy. The presentations are on the positive traits of ADHD – Surviving to Thriving: How to Embrace the Child who has ADHD. I am not sure how much I will be posting while I am traveling but stay with me and I will be back next Monday.