“Even though you can’t control outcomes for your child, you can parent unconditionally with all your heart.”
I am back from my trip to Seattle and although the time just flew by, I had a great time. A big thank you to Villa Academy for having me come and present to both teachers and parents on the topic of embracing the child who has ADHD. Everyone was so welcoming and it was a pleasure spending time with both parents and teachers. A special treat for me was getting time to spend in both of my daughter’s classrooms.
One of the points that I talked about in my presentation with the parents was the importance of unconditionally loving the child who has ADHD. I spoke about how it is easy to love them when they behave, get good grades, make good choices, etc., but it was not as easy when they misbehaved, did not get good grades, and made bad choices etc. Yet that is the most important time for your child to feel that love.
Loving them unconditionally does not mean leting them do whatever they want. It means setting expectations, handing out consequences (both good and not so good), always following through and being consistent. And it means staying calm while doing this so that you stay connected to your child and therefore they always feel your love.
So… As our quote says today you won’t be able to control the choices your children make or the outcomes in their lives but you can love them unconditionally and thus give them a strong base to launch from, and if they need to, come back to.
Have some fun today!