“If we never have headaches through rebuking our children, we shall have plenty of heartaches when they grow up.”
Correcting our children when we see them do something wrong is hard. Setting consequences and following through is difficult. Helping our children stay on the correct path is not easy. It takes time, effort, patience and it takes the knowledge that what we are doing is important for the growth of our children, even it if gives us a headache.
When my children were young, disciplining them was often difficult for me. I had to come to the realization that my job, as the adult, was to teach them a whole host of things and that I had to be a parent and not a friend. When they were mean to each other I had to help them learn empathy and compassion. When they “borrowed” something from their sister or me I had to teach them to ask before taking something from others. When they lied I had to teach them why telling the truth was so important. And so on, and so on and so on.
I also recognized that it was important to teach them when they were young and not wait until they were teenagers. When you are trying to discipline a three year old who is looking up at you with those big eyes and that cute smile, it is so easy to give in and excuse their behavior. When that three year old grows up and you are dealing with an angry and out of control teenager it is next to impossible to excuse their behavior. As our quote tells us today, if we don’t teach them when they are young we “will shall have plenty of heartaches when they grow up”.
So…It is never to late to start teaching your children your values but the earlier you start the easier it will be. Remember, it is better to have headaches today than to have heartaches later on.
Have some fun today!