- “Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.”
– Parker Palmer
It has been very hectic around here lately. Big changes are happening, which I will share with you in a future post, but the big changes have caused a lot of stress in my life. I have been very busy and in the process I forgot about caring for myself.
I was not getting enough sleep. I was busy from sun-up to sun -down. I was not eating very healthy, if I even remembered to eat. And I was constantly worried about one thing or another.
Two things happened as a result. One, I have the worst cold I have had in five years. And two, and most importantly, my husband told me yesterday that I was being mean. At first, I of course denied it, but after doing some thinking I realized that he was right. I was giving him short answers to his questions and I was distracted every time he tried to talk to me. I was tired and I was cranky and therefore was not being very nice to one person I care most deeply about. And the light bulb that was on dim suddenly became brighter! Sacrificing my well being in order to help others was just not working.
I realized that a lot of my problems in my “witch on a broomstick” phase were because I was trying to do too much for everyone else and not enough for me. I realized that being exhausted, and not eating right and being stressed kept me on that broomstick for a long time and that I could have gotten off of it much faster had I realized that I needed to take care of myself first.
So…although I know it feels uncomfortable to put yourself first, it really is the best thing that you can do for your family. Don’t let yourself get to the point where you are being “mean” or you are “riding around on a broomstick.” 🙂 Take care of you first so that you will have the energy to care for everyone else around you. I guarantee that you will be much happier and so will everyone around you!
Have some fun today!